You are the One
An excuse of action is still an action you committed.
Ever heard the phrase “Trouble seems to follow me”? Not too often after that phrase you see why trouble finds the individual alluring to begin with. This is an indication of a person not taking in all the possible variables, or too many, that can give them the detailed picture needed in their life that can help them see. Trouble follow those who are most welcoming to have it. You don’t walk into the home of a stranger because the door is left open. That would make you an intruder. But if the one who left the door open greets you and shows you inside, where is the confusion?
We can pass off so much of what we do when we choose to be blind to our own conduct, the only thing that is in our hand. Being unaware is one thing but ignorance isn’t as blissful as others may have you to believe. Walking blind and blaming others are easy. We often land ourselves in places where we least expect to find ourselves. If an accident continually repeats itself then, eventually, it has to be seen as a decision.
We make the bed that we lie in by the things that are examined and left unexamined. No part is more sacred than the other. If you don’t like a part of yourself, the best remedy is to become familiar with the part in order to understand what purpose it served in you. There isn’t a trait in you that has been formed that are there only to be used once. Unconsciously, that part of us served us at a specific point in our lives.
We think in closed loops and if a loop is not satisfied by the open ended story constructed for if, it will continue to operate. Even those who are completely innocent and are loved will fall victim to the whims we all call “not really who I am”. How many more examples are needed before the source of the trouble is sought out. The one is you. If one lets in joy, they smile and give praise almost anywhere they go. Perfection is not the goal but integration.
By visiting past parts of your life you can see where certain traits, at one time, were useful. Years later, they continue to run because life continually evolves and we have to evolve with it. An outburst here and a pound on the table there is the manifestation of what is behind a closed door that occasionally opens. The added aggression is fueled by the fear of an abusive childhood one could not rationalize. A victim becoming the very thing they feared in order to feel safe.
Victims creating more victims is the never-ending loop until one decides to close it. One being extra cautious of strangers is reminded of a time they ran away from home and had to learn who to trust. All the faces they walk by are placed under an intense heat that makes everyone a potential threat. By doing so the individual becomes harder and harder to connect with until they give up trying to connect altogether. The closing of the loop is allowing a few select individuals who showcase the traits they incorporate in themselves.
Once placed under the same heat as we place others, we tend to lower the intensity. That isn’t being careless but showing humility and understanding that being vulnerable again can be a sign of strength. We can carry pain as long as we want. The suffering does the wielder no justice. Past events haunt what sanctuaries you find in life. So if trouble follows you be sure to see the bread crumbs that fell from your pocket that led it to your doorstep.
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