Becoming Yourself
We incorporate our own energy, keep it yours.
This is an introduction into what makes us who we are and not by what the world portrays us to be. Everything in life is a process and we go through each day as either a conscious builder or an unconscious spectator. I'm doing so the very nature of who we are is constructed from our day to day lives, friends, family, hobbies, hopes and dreams. Once we interact with another do we notice the subtle shift in our demeanor? The energy one incorporates is introduce to our own and if we are unaware we may crumble under the very weight we chose not to see.
You better check yourself before you wreck yourself
In the wise words of rapper Ice Cube there is Truth in what he said. In is in our power to conduct ourselves a certain way. That practice is taken place before the stimulus is presented before us. We must weigh ourselves against the imaginable before the unimaginable one day appears. Even before we speak we give cues to those who are keen enough on what we believe and how we frame the world.
Watch yourself when you speak of someone you love then change the subject to someone who you despise. Sometimes almost immediately our energy shifts entirely in another direction as if we jumped planets to something completely unlike the other. There is a place within us where that shift happens. If it happens unconsciously you have yet to face it. If you sense the shift then you are a step closer to realizing its effects. If you sense the shift and you still have the ability to choose your conduct with minimal resistance then you are beginning to see how this can be powerful.
If anyone has wronged you in any capacity then it is one for you to see how that shift can take place. Someone you trust betray you? Then that love you have for them will turn sour and a scathing remark will slip out to cause them discomfort. Almost automatic and that is just in conversation with an individual. Your body speaks first by a contempt look or a eye roll that you say was normal but was charged by the appearance of the perpetrator.
In most cases, it is best to avoid those who you see as less desirable to be around. Though, it doesn’t dissolve you of the responsibility of centering yourself when another can easily take their place during the course of life. It is not the person or thing that is the source of the pain and anguish you feel when they are present. The source is only within you and the work can be done anywhere at a moments notice if you so choose.
The best course of practice is to simply ask yourself, “Who do I want to be when less than glowing individuals or forces present themselves?” That question will inevitably lead your to this basic, fundamental one, “Why does this hurt me so?” This completely removes the bad actors, circumstances, and structures that appeared to hold so much power inside of you. Once you begin to question the source the players and set pieces around it don’t seem so terrifying.
Sense you were able to check yourself, you conveniently avoided wrecking yourself. By staking claim what holds precedence in your life you can see the storm way off and assemble the pieces in your life to meet it as it makes its approach. It is simply by nature for it to rain, it only makes sense to open an umbrella.